Lessons of the Horse || The Key is Consistency

Following is part 3 of an article series published in Local Horse Magazine 2013

Let us begin by asking the question. Why is consistency so important when dealing with and training our horses?

Well, first we must understand what consistency is. Consistency means that rules and expectations are the same from one time to another. When dealing with horses it's important to remember consistency in your cues, in your training but also in your behaviour. Consistency makes the world predictable (to a point) and less confusing. It frees minds of worry about what might happen and teaches accountability for actions.

I've said it countless times before, and I'll say it again: my horses have been the greatest teachers in my life, only surpassed by one little person—my daughter. Together, they have taught me the most valuable lessons.

I am very rapidly discovering that life as a single mum is.....well, hard really. Very hard at times. I had a day with my daughter the other day that was testing (to say the least!), HOWEVER, it got me thinking about CONSISTENCY! My consistency in how I deal with her. I have been pretty run down of late and realised I maybe lacking in my consistency with her a little. This 'lack' on my part expressed itself through changes in her behaviour. So not only did I get to thinking about consistency with how I interact with my daughter but of coarse to how this relates to training our horses as well. Now, I must point out here that being consistent is actually harder than it seems.....especially when you are tired and you have a confident, strong willed five year old kid to deal with!

I do however, feel that I have a slight upper hand when it comes to 'dealing' with my daughter, as I have a background in Animal Training. I know that sounds strange but bare with me. This background has given me the knowledge and techniques I need to help 'mould' and 'shape' behaviour (in animals yes, but I believe the same basic principles apply to people too!). Now, what I am about to say may shock some people but it is not as bad as it sounds I promise!.....

I approach most lessons with with my daughter as if I were training an animal.....sounds bad doesn't it! It's not really. Let me explain....very basically, I 'reward' her good behaviour, her acceptable behaviour (being polite, cleaning her room, being nice to the cat etc gets her things like praise, games, treats, allowance....the list goes on). Her reward comes after the 'good behaviour' has been exhibited. Now, the only way to ensure that this behaviour continues and develops into good habits with her is through my CONSISTENCY! Kids who have consistent rules and boundaries with predictable outcomes are less likely to push the limits, tend to develop more respect, and will be less anxious....they know what is expected of them. Same as with our horses. Think of them as big furry, four legged children!

Consistency! That's how we learn right, through repetition. Again, same as our horses yes!? On the other hand INCONSISTENCY causes CONFUSION which can lead to all sorts of behavioural issues down the track. I know, believe me I do , that some days life is hectic and it seems so much easier just to 'let things slide'. But by doing this you are creating confusion, you are ultimately giving permission to your horse (or child) to push the boundaries, to test limits.

If you find yourself in a reactive state of mind, it's best to skip training your horse for the day. Consistency is nearly impossible when you're angry, frustrated, or tired. If you notice yourself becoming reactive during a session, it's better to stop immediately and walk away. The same principle applies to interacting with children. Operating from a reactive space is counterproductive. By staying calm and in control, you maintain consistency and effectiveness.

Horses (and children) like the security of knowing what to expect. They thrive in safe and predictable boundaries. With every step they offer in the right direction, offer them praise and a release of pressure.

It takes a great deal of patience and determination to be consistent in all areas of your life but the rewards for your horses (or your kids) is many! Remember; if you are balanced in your own behaviour you will have the best results when training your horse and don't forget that consistent presentation of cues is also imperative!

© Mel Spittall